We are adjusting to the new normal. The kids spend 2 days a week and every other weekend with Dad at the new house. Originally I was against this idea because I do everything for these little ones. Laundry, food and clothing shopping, snacks, play dates; everything. I felt, either I do everything and pack it up for someone else to benefit from my work or walk away and say your days your kids. Long story short, I do it for them and they will be the only ones who will miss out if i stop. I sucked it up, put on my big girl pants and decided that what I do for them should not change just because the grown ups in there life are acting stupid. So the calendar has become my best friend, who's day is it, what are they doing, what is the weather, what kind of clothes will they need, who has there swimsuits & sweatshirts, laundry, laundry, packing and unpacking. When I am with them I try to make it fun and try to plan outings. But sometimes they tell me Nana, I just want to stay home. On those days, I let them stay in their pj's watch TV in bed and make them their favorite snacks. All in all, I think I am blessed to be able to to have them in my life and be able to be their comfort blanket and place of normal.
Coming attractions...we are struggling with the idea of do we renovate to make us all fit more comfortably in my house or move and start fresh. I live in Bergen County and although housing prices have dropped, the type of space I would need is very expensive. If I moved south or west, I could get a lot more house and land for the money, but the kids would be far from their Dad. That would make him crazy and he would make our life crazy. If we buy new in this area, we would get into debt at a point when we were planning to just slow down and enjoy our golden years. If we renovate, we could control the cost, but have to live with the mess, 2 kids and a crazy schedule for who knows how long. Spin the wheel...more to follow.
On the up side, my grandson, is now 2 1/2 and a big bundle of joy and love. My grand daughter is 7 a sweet young lady with a stubborn streak that make me crazy.
Life goes on...Life is Good!